Heidi’s Happiness
Maybe happiness is this: not feeling like you should be elsewhere,
doing something else, being someone else.
Isaac Asimov
So many times in our lives, we have believed that we need to give our love and attention to everything outside of ourselves. That is an unfulfilling way to live. If we are empty inside, how can we possibly give from within? It’s like trying to pour water from an empty pitcher, if you don’t fill the pitcher first, how can we share the abundance and love that we have from within?
Here are some self-love steps to take to ensure you are filling yourself first.
Be aware of your own beliefs. As children we are taught certain beliefs by adults and society. We believe these things because we don’t know any different. When something comes into your awareness, ask yourself, is this something I truly believe in or is this something I’ve simply accepted because someone told me to.
Be aware of boundaries. If you’ve never set boundaries before, people will react, because they want you to be or act a certain way. You may have always done things for others and not taken into account how to take care of yourself. If you aren’t aware of what boundaries are, do some research, there are some good books out there to help you.
Take time for yourself. Being a single mother when my children were very young, it was challenging to find time for myself. One of the things I learned is that self-care is so very important. Self-care can be something as simple as putting lotion on your body, taking time to sit quiet for 10 minutes at the beginning or end of the day, turning off the radio while driving just to have the quietness. It doesn’t have to be complicated or big snippets of time. The little steps here and there will nurture you more than you can imagine.
Be aware of the people energies around you. If there are people around you that zap your energy, minimize your time with them. If possible, remove them from your life. There are steps you can take to protect yourself from negative and low vibration energy. It’s nothing personal, even if they are nice people, if they drag you down emotionally or energetically you need to reassess them being in your life.
Provide yourself grace. You may have said or done something that your mind will continue to hit the repeat button to play the tape over and over. Stop hitting the repeat button! Allow yourself the opportunity to look at the situation and learn what the lesson was and then let it go. There is no sense in carrying that crud around. I’ve told clients, no matter how gorgeous the bag is, there is still garbage being carried in it. Let it go!
Live with intention. You will accept and love yourself more, whatever is happening in your life, when you live with purpose. Setting an intention for a day, month or year will affect the way you live your life. I use Guide Cards and pull a card every morning. This helps set my intention for the day and an awareness of how I choose to love my life.
What can you do for yourself today to show yourself more love? More kindness? More peace?
